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Stop Spinning so fast.

Published June 4, 2017 by Kappaloca

Can the world just please stop spinning for a while? Just a few seconds slower please.

As much as I try to fit everything i still want to do in one day I keep finding that I did not do all the things I set out to do. Am I just getting old and slow or has the world’s rotation sped up a bit?

I promised to do the washing today. Did I do it? NO – Because it was more important to go have a Milkshake an Waffle day with my daughters. I say my daughters as I did not even invite my son. He stayed home to watch his Dad and get his homework done. I will spend a Mom and Son day with him alone. Who gives a shit about washing anyway? Wash it tomorrow. If the sun comes out. And if it does not? Well there is always a next day.

Time has a way of slipping away from us. Tasks pile up and some are trashed as they are not that important. Always make time for Family. Family takes prevalence over any tasks that needed doing.

I had a bucket list. Yup … HAD. Who cares if I had done a skydive or jumped off a Cliff or seen The Eiffel Tower? What matters most is that my children had seen me and I had seen them. Some days I feel like killing them or dropping them off inside the Lion Park but  then we kiss and make up and Life goes on. I want them to remember the Good and the Bad times so creating some Good times are of paramount importance as I will not always be around. I am going greyer by the day, getting older by the minute but I swear what ever time I do have left (No I am not dying ) I will do my very best to create the Memories they will need one day to carry on.

I realise now that sweating all the small stuff like cleaning their rooms and making sure their nails are always clean is just a bunch of shit they do not need in life. Being alive, Laughing,  and spending TIME together is what matters most. 

Have I taken on too much? Who’s fault is that? Not their fault.

Am I complaining with a Silver spoon dangling from my hip? Yes

Is the world still spinning too fast? Yes

Can I get back the time wasted on trivial things? NO!

Would I do things differently if given the chance? YES!!!

Do I feel guilty for the missed opportunities? NO! It is unnecessary to take a trip on the guilt train or to play the blame game. Everything happened for a reason. See it as a learning curve. a fulfilment of a Bucket List created by Nature.

It is what it is. 

The only spinning I now need to do is spin the washing in the Tumble Drier.

Having Milkshake with my Grandson makes Life slow down enough. For me the world spun slower for a few minutes today.

PS: I love you.




Holding on to the moment

Published November 22, 2013 by Kappaloca

I just watched this Clip:

So then what does happen? How is it that we cannot hold on? hold on to those moments that started the action or the growth?

You find a guy, you fall in love. That love is so intense that it hurts. It causes butterflies, makes your face light up every time you see each other. Your time becomes collective to only one meaning: getting to see him as soon as possible again. You start losing weight, you wear your clothes differently, you brush your hair more often, apply make-up more vibrantly. Anything to impress and draw the person closer to you. The touch makes you shudder, the kisses make you swoon, the cuddles and the strolls and the talking and the dreaming aloud,the showing each other off becomes a highlight in your life. Spending time together is the ultimate in holding on. The memories you take home is burnt into your brain. You don’t want to lose them. You smell each other in your clothing for hours afterwards. You don’t want to live without the other person. and then one day….it changes. Some changes are subtle others comes crashing down on you. The cheating, the lying, the abusive relationships, the name calling. Is there really anything to make you stay?

But every thing has to die and fade away! Everything! Even Love can die.

From the smallest creature to the biggest Mountain has to change and die. and so it is with love.

We often hear people say they fell out of love with a person. Why? What causes a reaction like that?

I personally think it’s all good to fall out of love with some one who just does not make you happy, but how does it happen? why? why does it happen? I also hear the phrase: we have grown in love together. 

I think we all want to grow old with that very special some one and stay Forever in love. Few have mastered this. 

Even the brittlest of flowers started from a seed, grew and blossomed, came into it’s own beauty, sowed it’s seeds,roughed the storms and the waters and the winds and the rain and then wilts and dies.

Live Life to it’s fullest today and never regret anything. 


Love as much and as hard as you can, walk away from the things you cannot love or don’t need and appreciate your love. 

But always remember that if you never Loved you will die too.



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